Modern technology and co-parenting: good or bad?

These days, technology is a big part of our daily lives. However, while advancing technology can allow us to do things we’ve never been able to do before in faster, more efficient ways, there are some drawbacks to consider.

This can be especially true when we look at technology in the context of parenting, or more specifically co-parenting. Being a parent who shares custody of your child is a very serious challenge for people all across San Jose. In some cases, technology can make it a little easier; in other cases, it actually complicates the situation.

For example, parents likely find the following benefits of modern technology very helpful:

  • Video chatting to keep parents in touch with their kids even when they can’t be physically present
  • Scheduling and budgeting apps for co-parents
  • GPS devices that allow parents to be able to find their kids if they go missing or are in a place they shouldn’t be
  • Email and texting to help parents avoid verbal discussions that could erupt into arguments

However, there are some downsides of modern technology that can hurt a co-parenting arrangement. This includes:

  • Social media sites that make it easy for parents to bad-mouth each other
  • Surveillance devices that parents use to violate the other parent’s privacy or to unfairly monitor their child while in the custody of the other parent
  • Kids (and parents) who are too connected to their devices, which can make it more difficult to communicate and spend quality time during visitation periods
  • Buying devices for kids as bribery or as a way to specifically contradict the wishes of the other parent

For better or worse, technology is here to stay. In fact, it will probably only become a bigger part of our lives as it continues to advance. In order to try and mitigate some of the problems related to technology while still using it for entertainment, safety and convenience, it can be wise for parents to address their opinions and wishes on the matter in a parenting plan.

If you have questions about how you might be able to do this or if technology is creating serious problems in your current custody arrangement, you should speak with your attorney to examine your legal options.