What to think about before dating during divorce

If you are thinking of getting together with someone new while you are going through a divorce or child custody proceedings, you certainly will not be alone. Many in these situations have their reasons, such as may be step in maintaining their self-esteem and sense of desirability. Nevertheless, dating or having an intimate relationship during divorce or custody proceedings could have unintended consequences.

As such, this post will highlight a few questions parents may want to ask themselves before delving into any new relationship during legal proceedings.

Who should know? – Like the old adage, few people will know about what happens in the dark; but once a clandestine relationship is brought to light, the consequences could affect your custody case.

Is this a long-term relationship? – Of course, you may think it is love at first sight, or that this may be “the one.” But it is helpful to get to know a person before introducing them to your children. After all, dating multiple people while going through a divorce or custody battle will be concerning to a custody evaluator.

How will jealousy play a part? – It may go without saying that your soon-to-be ex-spouse or significant other will become jealous upon learning about your new relationship. Not only can a new flame spark irrational motions and courtroom drama, it can adversely affect a child.

How will it look to a family court judge? – Last, but certainly not least, your dating choices should not be in conflict with what is best for your child. After all, family court judges base their custody decisions  on what is in the best interests of the child. So be wary of your dating choices in this regard.